Dating Advice And Tips.

Although it is important to have fun it is also equally important to make sure you are safe in whatever environment you choose, be it the virtual world of the internet or meeting for real in the outside world. So, we at Private-Affair have taken the steps to ensure that your time spent with us is most enjoyable and as safe as possible in the process. So here are a few tips that will help you make sound judgment in whatever capacity you decide to use this site in. Good luck and enjoy.

Common Sense
Whether looking for friendship, romance or just a roll in the hay, common sense has to prevail. It is important that you do not rush but rather take all the time you need to be convinced that the person you are communicating with, in your view, is trustworthy, if you have any doubts then hang back, better still, move on.

Tiny Steps
The beginning of your communication process primarily is going to be via private-affair.co.uk so look out for anyone who seems too good to be true, the chances are, they are? Be alert and look for the warning signs, looks for traits of odd behaviour or contradictions, above all trust your instincts. If something doesn’t seem right, then it probably isn’t?

Your Identity
Guard your identity with a passion. Do not under any circumstances give out personal details of any kind until you feel your ready to do so and just before you do, STOP, and ask yourself the question one more time, “do I feel ready to give this person these details, can I trust him/her, is this the right move”?

Tonality
At some stage you will want to speak to the person you have been interested in and what better way from a security angle than to speak on the phone? You can tell a lot about a person from their tonality and communication skills. Of course you should only give out your telephone number when you are completely comfortable with that person, if you are still a little apprehensive about revealing your number then either use a mobile (SIM cards are so cheap now and are easy to change) or dial 141 to hide your number before phoning.

A Picture Paints A Thousand Words
A photo can say an awful lot about a person and will give you a good idea of their general appearance, that is why no-one will be allowed to register or join private-affair.co.uk unless they are willing to give a full profile accompanied with an uploaded photo of themselves. We for the safety of our members consider that, if a person is not willing to produce a profile and a photo then they must have something to hide and that just wont do now will it?

The Meeting
One of the major advantages of meeting people through private-affair.co.uk is that the collation of information needed can be done gradually at you own pace, which gives you added luxury of deciding whether or not a relationship is worth pursuing? Remember no matter how far you have come with regards to the level of online intimacy, you are under no obligation to meet that person for real. If you did decide to meet but later changed you mind not to go through with it then that’s no crime. Your safety, happiness and peace of mind are all that should matter.

Warning Signs
Anyone can act nice on their first few meetings but real personalities are hard to keep at bay indefinitely and little tell tale signs soon come to the forefront. The secret is recognising them when they first glimmer into view. So lets look at some of the tell tale signs, these signs can emerge either singularly or in multiples.

1) Bouts of anger
2) Acting aggressively
3) Bouts of frustration
4) Being demanding
5) Adding unnecessary pressure
6) Trying to control you
7) Being disrespectful
8) Inappropriate physical behaviour
9) Make Warning Signssnide comments or racist remarks
10) Gives inconsistent information regarding Marital Status, Age, Profession or Employment, Hobbies and Interests, Is vague about family and friends.
These are just a few of the tell tail signs that all is not as should be and therefore gives rise for concern and forewarned as the saying goes.

Safe Meeting Place
It should go without saying but just in case here goes. When choosing for the first time to meet someone off-line, a safe meeting place should your top priority. For example, a public place like a bar, restaurant or café, somewhere where there will be a decant concentration of the general public. If you have it, always use your own transportation incase you decide to move location, that way you can meet your date at the other location and not leave yourself vulnerable and alone in a vehicle with someone you hardly know. Always let someone close to you know where you are meeting and inform them of any change of venue during your date and give them a good indication when you intend to return home.

Sound Judgement
When meeting someone for the first time off-line sound judgement and common sense has to be put to the forefront. Never allow yourself to be placed in a dangerous situation. The signals will be there, if all is not right, and you should take heed of them. If you feel anxious or afraid in any way, excuse yourself politely and call a relative or friend to come and get you, or approach a member of the public or anyone at the scene for help. If do you feel vulnerable and in danger don’t be afraid to call the police, they would much rather you be safe than sorry.

Never feel embarrassed or feel you are over exaggerating with regards to you personal safety. Your well being is worth far more than a couple of red cheeks and to be honest most people would not give it a second thought if you got it wrong. Most people get too hung up thinking that other people are thinking the worst of them, when nothing could be further from the truth. In all honesty. Most people are too hung up with their own lives to worry about other peoples mishaps, so don’t you worry, if you do not feel safe.

It all comes down to common sense really and we hope we have give you some insight and guidance in how to keep safe on your first meets, should you take it that far. We wish you luck in your search and hope you find what you are looking for. Enjoy.

As with all first time meets the underlying rule should be. IF IN DOUBT. DON’T.